Sexy Is Your Name?
Okay, so you may feel skeptical, but why not have a fling
with this passion predictor? Lock the doors—or go public and use
it to pep up a party!
By Shirlee Kiley and Rochelle Gordon
To learn what your name reveals about your sex appeal—what turns
you on, off, and over—look to the definitions below for both the
first and last letters of your given name and/or first name used. While
you’re at it, why not see what the letters have to say about your
mate or lover?
A You are not particularly romantic, but you
are interested in action. You mean business. With you, what you see is
what you get. You have no patience for flirting and can’t be bothered
with someone who is trying to be coy, cute, demure, and subtly enticing.
You are an up-front person. When it comes to sex, it’s action that
counts, not obscure hints. Your mate’s physical attractiveness is
important to you. You find the chase and challenge of the “hunt”
envigorating. You are passionate and sexual, as well as being much more
adventurous than you appear; however, you do not go around advertising
these qualities. Your physical needs are your primary concern.
B You give off vibes of lazy sensuality. You
enjoy being romanced, wined, and dined. You are very happy to receive
gifts as an expression of the affection of your lover. You want to be
pampered and know how to pamper your mate. You are private in your expression
of endearments, and particular when it comes to lovemaking. You will hold
off until everything meets with your approval. You can control your appetite
and abstain from sex if need be. You require new sensations and experiences.
You are wiling to experiment.
C You are a very social individual, and it is
important to you to have a relationship. You require closeness and togetherness.
You must be able to talk to your sex partner—before, during, and
after. You want the object of your affection to be socially acceptable
and good-looking. You see your lover as a friend and companion. You are
very sexual and sensual, needing someone to appreciate and almost worship
you. When this cannot be achieved, you have the ability to go for long
periods without sexual activity. You are an expert at controlling your
desires and doing without.
D Once you get it into your head that you want
someone, you move full steam ahead in pursuit. You do not give up your
quest easily. You are nurturant and caring. If someone has a problem,
this turns you on. You are highly sexual, passionate, loyal, and intense
in your involvements, sometimes possessive and jealous. Sex to you is
a pleasure to be enjoyed. You are stimulated by the eccentric and unusual,
having a free and open attitude.
E Your greatest need is to talk. If your date
is not a good listener, you have trouble relating. A person must be intellectually
stimulating or you are not interested sexually. You need a friend for
a lover and a companion for a bedmate. You hate disharmony and disruption,
but you do enjoy a good argument once in a while—it seems to stir
things up. You flirt a lot, for the challenge is more important than the
sexual act for you. But once you give your heart away, you are uncompromisingly
loyal. When you don’t have a good lover to fall asleep with, you
will fall asleep with a good book. (Sometimes, in fact, you prefer a good
F You are idealistic and romantic, putting your
lover on a pedestal. You look for the very best mate you can find. You
are a flirt, yet once committed, you are very loyal. You are sensuous,
sexual, and privately passionate. Publicly, you can be showy, extravagant,
and gallant. You are a born romantic. Dramatic love scenes are a favorite
fantasy pastime. You can be a very generous lover.
G You are fastidious, seeking perfection within
yourself and your lover. You respond to a lover who is your intellectual
equal or superior, and one who can enhance your status. You are sensuous
and know how to reach the peak of erotic stimulation, because you work
at it meticulously. You can be extremely active sexually—that is,
when you find the time. Your duties and responsibilities take precedence
over everything else. You may have difficulty getting emotionally close
to a lover, but no trouble getting close sexually.
H You seek a mate who can enhance your reputation
and your earning ability. You will be very generous to your lover once
you have attained a commitment. Your gifts are actually an investment
in your partner. Before the commitment, though, you tend to be frugal
in your spending and dating habits, and equally cautious in your sexual
involvements. You are a sensual and patient lover.
I You have a great need to be loved, appreciated…even
worshipped. You enjoy luxury, sensuality, and pleasures of the flesh.
You look for lovers who know what they are doing. You are not interested
in an amateur, unless that amateur wants a tutor. You are fussy and exacting
about having your desires satisfied. You are willing to experiment and
try new modes of sexual expression. You bore easily and thus require sexual
adventure and change. You are more sensual than sexual, but you are sometimes
J You are blessed with a great deal of physical
energy. When used for lovemaking, there is nothing to stop you, except
maybe the stamina of your partner. (You could have danced all night.)
You respond to the thrill of the chase and the challenge of the mating
game. You can carry on great romances in your head. At heart you are a
roamer and need to set out on your own every so often. You will carry
on long-distance relationships with ease. You are idealistic and need
to believe in love. The sex act seems to satisfy a need to be nurtured
K You are secretive, self-contained, and shy.
You are very sexy, sensual, and passionate, but you do not let on to this.
Only in intimate privacy will this part of your nature reveal itself.
When it gets down to the nitty-gritty, you are an expert. You know all
the little tricks of the trade, can play any role or any game, and take
your love life very seriously. You don’t fool around. You have the
patience to wait for the right person to come along.
L You can be very romantic, attached
to the glamour of love. Having a partner is of paramount importance to
you. You are free in your expression of love and are willing to take chances,
try new sexual experiences and partners, provided it’s all in good
taste. Brains turn you on. You must feel that your partner is intellectually
stimulating, otherwise you will find it difficult to sustain the relationship.
You require loving, cuddling, wining, and dining to know that you’re
M You are emotional and intense. When involved
in a relationship, you throw your entire being into it. Nothing stops
you; there are no holds barred. You are all-consuming and crave someone
who is equally passionate and intense. You believe in total sexual freedom.
You are willing to try anything and everything. Your supply of sexual
energy is inexhaustible. You also enjoy mothering your mate.
N You may appear innocent, unassuming, and shy;
but we know that appearances can lie. When it comes to sex, you are no
novice but something of a skilled technician. You can easily go to extremes,
though, running the gamut from insatiability to boredom with the whole
idea of sex. You can be highly critical of your mate, seeking perfection
in both of you. It is not easy to find someone who can meet your standards.
You have difficulty expressing emotions and drawing close to lovers.
O You are very interested in sexual activities
yet secretive and shy about your desires. You can rechannel much of your
sexual energy into making money and/or seeking power. You can easily have
extended periods of celibacy. You are a passionate, compassionate, sexual
lover, requiring the same qualities from your mate. Sex is serious business;
thus you demand intensity, diversity, and are willing to try anything
or anyone. Sometimes your passions turn to possessiveness, which must
be kept in check.
P You are very conscious of social proprieties.
You wouldn’t think of doing anything that might harm your image
or reputation. Appearances count. Therefore, you require a good-looking
partner. You also require an intelligent partner. Oddly enough, you may
view your partner as your enemy…a good fight stimulates those sex
vibes. You are relatively free of sexual hang-ups. You are willing to
experiment and try new ways of doing things. You are very social and sensual;
you enjoy flirting and need a good deal of physical gratification.
Q You require constant activity and stimulation.
You have tremendous physical energy. It is not easy for a partner to keep
up with you, sexually or otherwise. You are an enthusiastic lover and
tend to be attracted to people of other ethnic groups. You need romance,
hearts and flowers, and lots of conversations to turn you on and keep
R You are a no-nonsense, action-oriented, individual.
You need someone who can keep pace with you and who is your intellectual
equal—the smarter the better. You are turned on more quickly by
a great mind than by a great body. However, physical attractiveness is
very important to you. You have to be proud of your partner. You are privately
very sexy, but you do not show this outwardly. If your new lover is not
all that great in bed, you are willing to serve as teacher. Sex is important;
you can be a very demanding playmate.
S For you, it is business before pleasure. If
you are in any way bothered by career business, or money concerns, you
find it very hard to relax and get into the mood. You can be romantically
idealistic to a fault and are capable of much sensuality. But you never
lose control of your emotions. You are very careful and cautious before
you give your heart away—and your body, for that matter. Once you
make the commitment, though, you stick like glue.
T You are very sensitive, private, and sexually
passive; you like a partner who takes the lead. You get turned on by music,
soft lights, and romantic thoughts. You fantasize and tend to fall in
and out of love. When in love, you are romantic, idealistic, mushy and
extremely changeable. You enjoy having your senses and your feelings stimulated,
titillated, and teased. You are a great flirt. You can make your relationships
fit your dream, all in your own head.
U You are enthusiastic and idealistic when in
love. When not in love, you are in love with love, always looking for
someone to adore. You see romance as a challenge. You are a roamer and
need adventure, excitement, and freedom. You deal in potential relationships.
You enjoy giving gifts and enjoy seeing your mate look good. Your sex
drive is strong and you desire instant gratification. You are willing
to put your partner’s pleasures above your own.
V You are individualistic, and you need freedom,
space and excitement. You wait until you know someone well before committing
yourself. Knowing someone means psyching him out. You feel a need to go
into his head to see what makes him tick. You are attracted to eccentric
types. Often there is an age difference between you and your lover. You
respond to danger, thrills, and suspense. The gay scene turns you on,
even though you yourself may not be a participant.
W You are very proud, determined, and you refuse
to take no for an answer when pursuing love. Your ego is at stake. You
are romantic, idealistic, and often in love with love itself, not seeing
your partner as he or she really is. You feel deeply and throw all of
yourself into your relationships. Nothing is too good for your lover.
You enjoy playing love games.
X You need constant stimulation because you
bore quickly. You can handle more than one relationship at a time with
ease. You can’t shut off your mind. You talk while you make love.
You can have the greatest love affairs, all by yourself, in your own head.
Y You are sexual, sensual, and very independent.
If you can’t have it your way, you will forgo the whole thing. You
want to control your relationships, which doesn’t always work out
too well. You respond to physical stimulation, enjoy necking and spending
hours just touching, feeling, and exploring. However, if you can spend
your time making money, you will give up the pleasures of the flesh for
the moment. You need to prove to yourself and your partner what a great
lover you are. You want feedback on your performance. You are an open,
stimulating, romantic bedmate.
Z You are very romantic, idealistic, and somehow
you believe that to love means to suffer. You wind up serving your mate
or attracting people who have unusual troubles. You see yourself as your
lover’s savior. You are sincere, passionate, lustful, and dreamy.
You can’t help falling in love. You fantasize and get turned on
by movies and magazines. You do not tell others of this secret life, nor
of your sexual fantasies. You are easily aroused sexually.
From Personal Power in Your
Name. Appeared in Cosmopolitan Magazine, February 1984.
© Rochelle Gordon 2004